Everyone knows something important, but getting it out of them is difficult.
I’ve come across a bunch of people recently who are having professional or personal problems that others around them could solve. Yet, they don’t know how to ask those people. They don’t even know who to ask.
Hell, I am one of those people. I have trouble with it all the time.
One of the biggest obstacles to progress is finding out what your contacts know. If a friend of yours knows the director at your bank branch, while you’re trying to get a mortgage, you’d want to know, right? But unless you know to ask, you miss out.
Everyone is constantly missing out on opportunities like this. Little ones, big ones– all the time. It’s a huge passive time waster.
I’m trying to solve this problem now. I’m learning to ask people what they are working on and what they care about– about the things they know how to do that others don’t. But it took me years.
A big question I’m asking myself is why I do not have at least the skills of those I know– if not more.
Some are restrictions of personality or intelligence, sure.
But the real answer is simply that I don’t know how to ask or to learn as well as I should.
So what is the most effective way you have of learning? What is the most valuable thing you know? If you’re willing, please tell me in the comments below.