Comments on: How To Make Your New Year's Resolution Actually Happen http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/ social capital, trust agents, all that jazz Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: DoomRater http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-351527 DoomRater Thu, 20 Oct 2011 01:16:26 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-351527 Holy crap put this concept down in words plz. I know someone who never learned emotional stability and desperately needs it. I have not done the research on how to do this mostly because I never needed to for myself in most things, but I want more control out of my emotional states too without coming off as robotic. Holy crap put this concept down in words plz. I know someone who never learned emotional stability and desperately needs it. I have not done the research on how to do this mostly because I never needed to for myself in most things, but I want more control out of my emotional states too without coming off as robotic.

]]> By: Julien http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-231995 Julien Sun, 02 Jan 2011 16:07:30 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-231995 Totally right Jean. A resolution without a system behind it is like saying "I hope." It's pointless. Totally right Jean. A resolution without a system behind it is like saying “I hope.” It’s pointless.

]]> By: Eric Jean http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-231975 Eric Jean Sun, 02 Jan 2011 15:15:22 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-231975 Reason this works is because a goal is nothing without an implementation intention: "in situation X I will do Y in order to achieve Z." I make it a mantra. This formula guarantees that if you do X in situation Y you almost invariably get Z. Without one of these variables, however, the system just don't work. Reason this works is because a goal is nothing without an implementation intention: “in situation X I will do Y in order to achieve Z.” I make it a mantra. This formula guarantees that if you do X in situation Y you almost invariably get Z. Without one of these variables, however, the system just don’t work.

]]> By: Larry http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175532 Larry Sat, 09 Jan 2010 14:42:40 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175532 Being specific is key, probably for the simple reason that if you're not specific you can always put it off until tomorrow. And since you're "going to do it tomorrow", you've still kinda sorta stuck to your game plan. Being specific is key, probably for the simple reason that if you’re not specific you can always put it off until tomorrow. And since you’re “going to do it tomorrow”, you’ve still kinda sorta stuck to your game plan.

]]> By: Dave Doolin http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175523 Dave Doolin Sat, 09 Jan 2010 07:10:50 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175523 This is right. Make certain things non-negotiable. 6 days per week I write for an hour before doing anything more than making a cup of coffee. That may be all I get done for the day. But it beats many days before when I got nothing done at all. This is right. Make certain things non-negotiable. 6 days per week I write for an hour before doing anything more than making a cup of coffee. That may be all I get done for the day. But it beats many days before when I got nothing done at all.

]]> By: Crystal Guthrie http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175521 Crystal Guthrie Sat, 09 Jan 2010 05:09:29 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175521 I have always found that the more specific I make my goals the more likely I am to achieve them. Also reading my goals every day helps me to internalize them into habits. I have always found that the more specific I make my goals the more likely I am to achieve them. Also reading my goals every day helps me to internalize them into habits.

]]> By: Lisa Yallamas http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175512 Lisa Yallamas Fri, 08 Jan 2010 21:23:21 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175512 Aren't you talking about setting yourself a deadline? I make lists all the time and tick them off as I go through. It's the only way I get through everything. But I find that you need to bend the rules sometimes when things go awry - like losing four hours in the shopping centre car park when you lock your keys in the car - no gym, no blog (but I did take quick shots for a video blip). So sometimes I get things done by changing the list and sometimes I get things done by changing the deadline - or removing it... because the creative mind doesn't work by deadlines. It all depends on the priority setting. Aren’t you talking about setting yourself a deadline? I make lists all the time and tick them off as I go through. It’s the only way I get through everything. But I find that you need to bend the rules sometimes when things go awry – like losing four hours in the shopping centre car park when you lock your keys in the car – no gym, no blog (but I did take quick shots for a video blip). So sometimes I get things done by changing the list and sometimes I get things done by changing the deadline – or removing it… because the creative mind doesn’t work by deadlines. It all depends on the priority setting.

]]> By: Denis http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175509 Denis Fri, 08 Jan 2010 20:41:03 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175509 It's true... Allowing ourselves to structure our activities helps a lot... however...if we don't nurture that desire or come from a place where we really want to enjoy the results... it s going to be that much harder.... Having a burning desire is the start of a...as Humphrey Bogart would say"Beautiful friendship kid" It’s true… Allowing ourselves to structure our activities helps a lot… however…if we don’t nurture that desire or come from a place where we really want to enjoy the results… it s going to be that much harder…. Having a burning desire is the start of a…as Humphrey Bogart would say”Beautiful friendship kid”

]]> By: Amber Whitener http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175506 Amber Whitener Fri, 08 Jan 2010 20:14:39 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175506 You are so right! I always get these "grand ideas" to do something and keep it up to date. This year I started with "consolidating" my personal content (blogs, randomness)into my personal blog. I really need to set aside time for this every day for the next three months to get it all done, done right, and stay on my game with my business! After all, what good are good intentions without results? Knowing myself, I won't get results unless I am more specific about what's necessary to get it all done. Great post, Julien. You are so right! I always get these “grand ideas” to do something and keep it up to date. This year I started with “consolidating” my personal content (blogs, randomness)into my personal blog.

I really need to set aside time for this every day for the next three months to get it all done, done right, and stay on my game with my business! After all, what good are good intentions without results? Knowing myself, I won’t get results unless I am more specific about what’s necessary to get it all done. Great post, Julien.

]]> By: Nadia http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175505 Nadia Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:57:21 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175505 I really like that approach which equals in my mind to giving yourself the oportunity to get what you so you won't be disapointed all the time. A friend at work in Ottawa gave me a somehow similar advice a few years ago. She would set up a list of things she wanted to achieve, and then write a list actions in her agenda. I was at first a bit skeptical, but once I followed a few of her tips I ended up doing a lot more than I expected. Sorry for the mistakes I am a bit better in French :-) I really like that approach which equals in my mind to giving yourself the oportunity to get what you so you won’t be disapointed all the time. A friend at work in Ottawa gave me a somehow similar advice a few years ago. She would set up a list of things she wanted to achieve, and then write a list actions in her agenda. I was at first a bit skeptical, but once I followed a few of her tips I ended up doing a lot more than I expected.

Sorry for the mistakes I am a bit better in French :-)

]]> By: Mudd a.k.a. Oza Meilleur http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175504 Mudd a.k.a. Oza Meilleur Fri, 08 Jan 2010 19:39:38 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175504 Bonjour Julien! I've already established a *plan* for reaching my goals in 2010. Actually, I'm going with monthly goals and breaking them down into weekly baby steps. I call the whole thing "The 12 Notch Plan," as in going up a notch each month. And YES, it's all intended for me to create new habits, but I hadn't realized this till I read your post... I hadn't "registered" it as such in my brain. So thanks for directing my mind towards the right focus -- I need to actually know what I'm doing if I want to make it happen, right? Wishing you a truly *magical* 2010... and abundance galore. Peace & Love & Hocus Pocus, Mudd a.k.a. AbracadOza ;-) xoxo Bonjour Julien!

I’ve already established a *plan* for reaching my goals in 2010. Actually, I’m going with monthly goals and breaking them down into weekly baby steps. I call the whole thing “The 12 Notch Plan,” as in going up a notch each month.

And YES, it’s all intended for me to create new habits, but I hadn’t realized this till I read your post… I hadn’t “registered” it as such in my brain.

So thanks for directing my mind towards the right focus — I need to actually know what I’m doing if I want to make it happen, right?

Wishing you a truly *magical* 2010… and abundance galore.

Peace & Love & Hocus Pocus,
Mudd a.k.a. AbracadOza ;-)
xoxo

]]> By: anji bee http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175501 anji bee Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:43:32 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175501 oh i like that idea about writing after breakfast. normally i hit the first thing on my list after breakfast, but i think i'll try switching that up to writing a quick journal entry first. ever since i got heavy into social media i let my journal slide, which makes me sad. i learn so much about my personal evolution through looking back through my journal, but now i have whole months missing. as for reading, i always do that in the tub, so the two things are linked pleasantly in my mind. and the gym i do every friday, with random days for tennis and beach walks. i should probably add another gym day. anyway, thanks, jules! oh i like that idea about writing after breakfast. normally i hit the first thing on my list after breakfast, but i think i’ll try switching that up to writing a quick journal entry first.

ever since i got heavy into social media i let my journal slide, which makes me sad. i learn so much about my personal evolution through looking back through my journal, but now i have whole months missing.

as for reading, i always do that in the tub, so the two things are linked pleasantly in my mind.

and the gym i do every friday, with random days for tennis and beach walks. i should probably add another gym day.

anyway, thanks, jules!

]]> By: Tamsen http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175500 Tamsen Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:18:39 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175500 I ran across some research a while back that explains why this works, why habits always beat out goals--and how we can make that fact work for us. Enjoy: http://bit.ly/goals-v-habits. They have a book coming out later this year, I think. That one's definitely going on my reading list. I ran across some research a while back that explains why this works, why habits always beat out goals–and how we can make that fact work for us.

Enjoy: http://bit.ly/goals-v-habits. They have a book coming out later this year, I think. That one’s definitely going on my reading list.

]]> By: Julien http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175499 Julien Fri, 08 Jan 2010 18:01:16 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175499 You're totally right about getting disappointed, too. Controlling your emotional state (ie, preventing yourself from beating yourself up over it) is super important, it should totally be a post. Go as restrictive as you can with this, I promise it will help you. For my gym schedule, I actually write "NON-NEGOTIABLE" next to each one so that looking at it will tell me I'm not allowed to say no. You’re totally right about getting disappointed, too. Controlling your emotional state (ie, preventing yourself from beating yourself up over it) is super important, it should totally be a post.

Go as restrictive as you can with this, I promise it will help you. For my gym schedule, I actually write “NON-NEGOTIABLE” next to each one so that looking at it will tell me I’m not allowed to say no.

]]> By: Jessica Randazza http://inoveryourhead.net/give-in-to-the-machine-pt-2/#comment-175498 Jessica Randazza Fri, 08 Jan 2010 17:58:01 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1351#comment-175498 Great post. I often feel discouraged by not sticking to my gym/blog/cooking at home routine, and then I beat myself up for it. And once I start feeling discouraged, I'm less likely to restrict myself (or give myself any goals), because I convince myself that I'm not disciplined enough. It's silly and something that could easily be solved by locking my schedule down by writing in my planner. Great post. I often feel discouraged by not sticking to my gym/blog/cooking at home routine, and then I beat myself up for it. And once I start feeling discouraged, I’m less likely to restrict myself (or give myself any goals), because I convince myself that I’m not disciplined enough.

It’s silly and something that could easily be solved by locking my schedule down by writing in my planner.

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