Comments on: Community vs Currency http://inoveryourhead.net/community-vs-currency/ social capital, trust agents, all that jazz Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:27:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Lou Sagar http://inoveryourhead.net/community-vs-currency/#comment-174150 Lou Sagar Sat, 14 Nov 2009 22:04:42 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1226#comment-174150 FYI...its hard to find the submit button. FYI…its hard to find the submit button.

]]> By: Lou Sagar http://inoveryourhead.net/community-vs-currency/#comment-174149 Lou Sagar Sat, 14 Nov 2009 22:03:30 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1226#comment-174149 I think the re-emergence of community as a force will be further enhanced as "trust agents" germinate across the web, and we begin them act as the intermediaries for commerce, and we will see more commerce conducted because of "trusted" community-based associations, and less trust and association with brands, as we have known them. By the way, I love the contextural imagery of your blog...Its a trusting space. Keep up the amazing work. I think the re-emergence of community as a force will be further enhanced as “trust agents” germinate across the web, and we begin them act as the intermediaries for commerce, and we will see more commerce conducted because of “trusted” community-based associations, and less trust and association with brands, as we have known them. By the way, I love the contextural imagery of your blog…Its a trusting space. Keep up the amazing work.

]]> By: Whitney http://inoveryourhead.net/community-vs-currency/#comment-174137 Whitney Sat, 14 Nov 2009 10:47:55 +0000 http://inoveryourhead.net/?p=1226#comment-174137 Well, from the perspective of a lawyer, I look at my job drafting contracts as making the terms of the relationship and the expectations clear and explicit, simple and overt. Most social relationships outside of a pure business context have rules, but the rules aren't explicit, and they are variable depending on who wants to be in the relationship and who does not. For example, "Joe" says he'll call "Diane" tomorrow. If he does, he builds trust in the relationship; if he fails to do so, and she spent the evening waiting by the phone (even her cell) expecting the call, she's going to be disappointed, and his "stock" with her will fall. However, if she did not really expect him to follow through, she doesn't much care that he failed to deliver on his promise. I bet neither party made their intentions to act, or their expectations of each other clear in advance in this situation. Likewise, there are people I am close friends with, and they get significantly more "trust rope" and latitude with breaking rules than people I don't feel as close to. If these friends break the implicit versus explicit rules of the relationship, I have these choices 1) get mad or angry or upset and then decide whether or not to tell them about it, and establish the rules in a more overt way by making my "boundaries" more explicit and less implicit or b) adjust my expectations so I do not expect more of my friends than they are able to deliver. I do think we are valuing relationships more than mere transactions as a whole now, partially because as we have become more "productive" as a whole, the micro-communities we create at churches and social groups in a face to face manner receive less attention from us in favor for the larger macro communities and relationships we can and do maintain virtually and online. We can find more people who fit our own definition of self better online-we're no longer just limited to our neighbors to find like-minded folks, which also means we may spend less time looking for face to face communities, filling that need virtually instead. The part here I'd like to hear more about is your thoughts on relationship maintenance- how much care and feeding do you think online relationships need, especially when compared to those in real life? Well, from the perspective of a lawyer, I look at my job drafting contracts as making the terms of the relationship and the expectations clear and explicit, simple and overt. Most social relationships outside of a pure business context have rules, but the rules aren’t explicit, and they are variable depending on who wants to be in the relationship and who does not.
For example, “Joe” says he’ll call “Diane” tomorrow. If he does, he builds trust in the relationship; if he fails to do so, and she spent the evening waiting by the phone (even her cell) expecting the call, she’s going to be disappointed, and his “stock” with her will fall. However, if she did not really expect him to follow through, she doesn’t much care that he failed to deliver on his promise. I bet neither party made their intentions to act, or their expectations of each other clear in advance in this situation.

Likewise, there are people I am close friends with, and they get significantly more “trust rope” and latitude with breaking rules than people I don’t feel as close to. If these friends break the implicit versus explicit rules of the relationship, I have these choices 1) get mad or angry or upset and then decide whether or not to tell them about it, and establish the rules in a more overt way by making my “boundaries” more explicit and less implicit or b) adjust my expectations so I do not expect more of my friends than they are able to deliver.
I do think we are valuing relationships more than mere transactions as a whole now, partially because as we have become more “productive” as a whole, the micro-communities we create at churches and social groups in a face to face manner receive less attention from us in favor for the larger macro communities and relationships we can and do maintain virtually and online. We can find more people who fit our own definition of self better online-we’re no longer just limited to our neighbors to find like-minded folks, which also means we may spend less time looking for face to face communities, filling that need virtually instead.

The part here I’d like to hear more about is your thoughts on relationship maintenance- how much care and feeding do you think online relationships need, especially when compared to those in real life?

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