“You have your Bibles, don’t you?”
She was right– I do. Bibles is exactly what they are. They help me live my life well, help me make decisions, and make sure I am heading in the right direction.
It’s exactly like a religious book– except I wrote it.
If you don’t have a Bible, your daily decisions are probably based on mood, or if you’re lucky and you’ve thought it through, maybe they’re based on values. But I’m deeply impulsive, so even values aren’t good enough. I need something written down, telling me what to do.
You know when you go to a store and it says cash only on the cash register? It’s like that. Something that’s written down is more powerful, somehow.
So when I go to my apps, they say “go home and do 10 minutes of cleaning,” and I listen. That’s my Bible. Without that, my whole life would be in disorder. I’d have no idea what to base my decisions on.
But there’s something else, too. A Good Book actually isn’t enough– you need more. Because behind every Bible is actually another thing, a kind of meta-belief, that keeps the whole thing under control.
Mine is deceptively simple. It says: “Don’t trust yourself with decisions. Trust me instead.”
Or in other words, emotions are good advisors but bad kings. So you should never trust how you feel in the moment.
Any holy text is basically the same. It’s telling you “decide based on what I say, not based on how you’re feeling.” There’s a lot of power in that.
I firmly believe that all people are, in a sense, addicts. Everyone is an addict of a different type, to a different degree, with different problems. We all need help; we just make different decisions about how to get it.
Long ago, I got what worked for me. I didn’t let go and let God, but I did let go and let… something.