In Over Your Head

Category: challenge

  • Do Not Apologize

    You have no choice but to be yourself– so you can do it reluctantly, or proudly. Either apologize as you do it, or do it with all your heart and every faith in yourself you can muster. That’s the choice. In learning to do this, you might transition from being awkward and uncomfortable to strong […]

  • It’s Saturday

    You probably shouldn’t be on the internet. Here’s a little tool to help. I downloaded Freedom about a year ago and it’s helped me gain access to creativity and tranquility over and over again since I downloaded it. It does this by wiping out the ability for your computer to connect to the internet for […]

  • Running on Empty

    When you are building up an asset, you’re either spending time or cash. Renovating a house requires either your handiwork or someone else’s. Getting a charity off the ground requires legwork or funding. Often a combination of both is required. Sometimes you have more of one than the other, or you have no choice which […]

  • 30 Days of Home Cookin’

    You may not have had the pleasure yet, but trust me: Cooking for friends is actually pretty great. I did it yesterday while I had some friends over to roll some dice and, man, was it different than ordering pizza. I also put down some charcuteries out on the table and we devoured that stuff. […]

  • Balls

    Your fashion choices, your words, your decisions–all need more BALLS. You worry what people think about you because they won’t like you, or they’ll talk behind your back. But really, they’ll admire your courage and adjust just fine. You’ll question yourself at the last minute, maybe think you’re crazy, but sometimes, you need to be […]

  • Life Doesn’t Start Tomorrow

    There isn’t a single thing in this world that’s made better by starting tomorrow. Everything you care about, everything you are about, needs to begin today or it may never happen. If you don’t want to do it now, you clearly don’t want it bad enough. Momentum comes from pushing, not from planning. Confidence comes […]

  • How Confidence Works

    Dogs are great people trainers. Those of you that have dogs know this already, but my girlfriend and I have been learning it over the past few weeks with a new Whippet/Lab mix. It’s amazing. A dog will try to exert dominance over you again and again. If you don’t react appropriately, the dog realizes […]

  • The Importance of the Physical

    If you do yoga, your body is relaxed, so your mind is relaxed too. If you push yourself through long, tough endurance races, you know that pushing past your mental barriers is just as essential as training through your physical ones. In a lot of ways, the body and the mind are connected; just not […]

  • Making Yourself Unemployable

    I was at the bank today, dealing with a young, freshly-hired teller. It got me thinking about how my life could have been with just a few different turns. I used to find big, comfy jobs very seductive. I remember getting hired at Fido in 2002 and thinking “This is a big brand, a well-paying […]

  • You need tension

    If you want to change, create tension. Some people join the army to do this. I don’t know if it works for them. Thankfully there are other options. Place limits on yourself, even though you don’t need to. Break up your unhappy relationship, even if it’s comfortable. Stop talking, stop going out, or change your […]